You Were Never Meant to Hustle for Love
I was in bed reading - phone finally out of reach, the world a little quieter - when one page pulled me in like a whisper to the soul.
It said something like:
Our fear of scarcity doesn’t start with money - it starts when we don’t feel love, safety, or warmth early on.
And something in me softened.
Because maybe the thing we’ve been chasing all along isn’t more money, more time, more security.
Maybe it’s something quieter - the feeling of being safe to exist.
Safe to ask. Safe to need. Safe to be.
The First Scarcity We Ever Felt
It starts before language.
Before we even know the words for what we feel.
Science shows that babies absorb the emotional world of their mothers - their fears, doubts, joy, stress - even from the womb.
The womb is our first home, and what we feel there becomes the blueprint.
Sometimes the first message we get is: it’s not safe to be soft.
It’s not safe to receive.
It’s not safe to ask for more.
That’s where it begins.
Scarcity Isn’t Just About Money
Scarcity can show up as the absence of care.
The absence of tenderness.
The quiet fear that you take up too much space.
We learn that love is earned.
That approval comes from performance.
That rest must be justified.
And suddenly we’re adults still carrying those same beliefs - that we must do more, be more, give more… just to be enough.
The Beliefs We Carry
They sound like:
“I don’t deserve what I want.”
“I’ll never have it easy.”
“I have to work twice as hard to feel secure.”
But here’s the truth - those thoughts aren’t yours.
They were given to you.
And just like they were learned, they can be unlearned.
With gentleness. With intention. With love.
What Happens When We Are Held
When a baby is met with love, something beautiful happens - trust is born.
That invisible thread that whispers, “you’re safe, you’re loved, you belong.”
And even if you didn’t grow up with that kind of holding, you can create it now.
In the way you honour your energy.
In how you speak to yourself in the quiet moments.
In how you soften instead of push.
Relearning trust is not about doing more - it’s about coming home to yourself.
You Don’t Have to Prove Anything
Let this land - you don’t need to prove your worth.
You don’t need to chase peace.
You were born worthy.
Born with the right to take up space.
Born ready to be loved without performance.
The world may have told you to harden - but your soul remembers how to trust.
And healing doesn’t have to be loud. It can be soft.
One loving moment at a time.
Journal With Me
Take five minutes tonight - light a candle, breathe deep, and explore:
Where am I still trying to earn love?
What belief about “not enough” am I ready to release?
What would change if I fully trusted that I’m already safe?
From My Heart to Yours
If you’ve been tired of striving - this is your invitation to pause.
You don’t need to do more to be more.
Your softness is not a flaw - it’s your superpower.
This is the return.
To your feminine.
To your truth.
To you.
And the love you’ve always looked for?
It’s been within you all along.
With love,
White Sand in The Sky